fact or theory?
Jan. 2nd, 2008 01:37 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
So Jaime and I were speculating tonight, and decided that:
A. For girls, it's true that "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
B. For guys, it's pretty much "out of sight, out of mind."
In other words, girls analyze relationships much more than guys do. Or so we think. But we don't really know.
Anyone want to weigh in on this topic? Is our theory based in fact, or is it flawed in some crucial point?
A. For girls, it's true that "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
B. For guys, it's pretty much "out of sight, out of mind."
In other words, girls analyze relationships much more than guys do. Or so we think. But we don't really know.
Anyone want to weigh in on this topic? Is our theory based in fact, or is it flawed in some crucial point?
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Date: 2008-01-02 06:52 pm (UTC)Maybe we're clueless, Jess. ;-)
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Date: 2008-01-02 07:20 pm (UTC)Just from what little I know ( and sometimes I am in awe by how little I really do know) I would say that it is true. From the relationships I'm in and around, it certainly proves so. However, I would not be quick to say that it is like that for every girl or every guy. I know of some guys who it probably wouldn't be true for. But as a general rule of thumb, yes.
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Date: 2008-01-02 07:54 pm (UTC)We need some guys' input here, though. ;-)
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Date: 2008-01-02 08:10 pm (UTC)I do think that guys have more of a tendency towards that but I think it's really important what length of time we're talking about here. If we're talking a couple weeks or maybe a month, I think it's still that "absence makes the heart grow fonder". Longer than that though and I think it takes serious effort to not turn to "out of sight out of mind".
That's just my two cents though and I'm sure it's different for different guys or the type or length of the relationship.
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Date: 2008-01-03 06:09 am (UTC)That's a good point. I know that principle has applied in my own life, especially if you're not in regular contact while away. No communication = no relationship, and even the wayward minds of girls will stop analyzing eventually. lol. Then again, I don't always think like a typical girl, so my opinion could be skewing things.
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Date: 2008-01-03 04:09 am (UTC)Of course, all that will depend on the personality of the guy and the depth of the relationship. Shallower or "surface" relationships are "out of mind" more. But yes, some guys do think of relationships, how much they invest in them, and evaluate if they need maintenance.
We do know it's about more than hanging out. Give us that. ;)
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Date: 2008-01-04 08:23 pm (UTC)I would disagree, at least for my own personal male self. Although I probably am more prone to relational over-analysis than most guys.