fact or theory?

[jbwordsmith]

So Jaime and I were speculating tonight, and decided that:

A. For girls, it's true that "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

B. For guys, it's pretty much "out of sight, out of mind."

In other words, girls analyze relationships much more than guys do. Or so we think. But we don't really know.

Anyone want to weigh in on this topic? Is our theory based in fact, or is it flawed in some crucial point?

Comments

[leahjoy.livejournal.com]

Since I returned to school, I have found less interested in the guy I was dating last summer, but he still seems interested, about the same as before it seems. I don't know... I think I'm just weird, so your theory may be perfectly good.

[hischosenbride.livejournal.com]

In my experience, I would say that theory is at least 95% true.

[kellchecker.livejournal.com]

I think it's totally right on.

[everydayjoy.livejournal.com]

I would really be speculating just as you are, but I'd have to agree!

[eattheolives.livejournal.com]

It sounds logical to me!

[annabanana86.livejournal.com]

I think in my (very limited) experience, this would be true.

[lovedandamazed.livejournal.com]

Personally, I don't think I would agree.

[missbusylizzie.livejournal.com]

Maybe sometimes. But from the limited information I've heard about the strange and mysterious minds of guys, I would probably say it depends on the people and situation. ;P

[abideinchrist.livejournal.com]

Heh. We need some guys' perspectives here. :P

Maybe we're clueless, Jess. ;-)

[gracegirl.livejournal.com]

That's what I thought....::off to e-mail my brother, who always has interesting insights, lol::

[delightinginhim.livejournal.com]

Just from what little I know ( and sometimes I am in awe by how little I really do know) I would say that it is true. From the relationships I'm in and around, it certainly proves so. However, I would not be quick to say that it is like that for every girl or every guy. I know of some guys who it probably wouldn't be true for. But as a general rule of thumb, yes.

[nelliegirl.livejournal.com]

I've found that to be true, in general. But then, I'm a girl.

[asourceofjoy.livejournal.com]

I am sure there are exceptions, due to circumstance and personality...but in my experience I have found this to be quite too true.

We need some guys' input here, though. ;-)

[sir-flute.livejournal.com]

Hmm, I guess I'll be the obligatory guy and throw my two cents in.

I do think that guys have more of a tendency towards that but I think it's really important what length of time we're talking about here. If we're talking a couple weeks or maybe a month, I think it's still that "absence makes the heart grow fonder". Longer than that though and I think it takes serious effort to not turn to "out of sight out of mind".

That's just my two cents though and I'm sure it's different for different guys or the type or length of the relationship.

[completeinhim.livejournal.com]

If we're talking a couple weeks or maybe a month, I think it's still that "absence makes the heart grow fonder". Longer than that though and I think it takes serious effort to not turn to "out of sight out of mind".

That's a good point. I know that principle has applied in my own life, especially if you're not in regular contact while away. No communication = no relationship, and even the wayward minds of girls will stop analyzing eventually. lol. Then again, I don't always think like a typical girl, so my opinion could be skewing things.

[catatinan-maid.livejournal.com]

are you talking about a couple or two people who haven't told each other about an interest? With the former, I would say the guy is just as much thinking about it as the girl. No idea on the latter :)

[completeinhim.livejournal.com]

oh, I meant the latter. I agree with you about the former, although I haven't any personal experience. ;)

[(Anonymous)]

OK, I'll dissent here (with a few caveats) and say that, depending on the guy, it's probably half and half. Just because a guy may "pick things up where they left off" from when he last saw you doesn't mean he didn't think or evaluate anything during the meantime. To a guy, that's the logical & orderly progression of how things "should" be. It's a journey, not hopscotch or leapfrog.

Of course, all that will depend on the personality of the guy and the depth of the relationship. Shallower or "surface" relationships are "out of mind" more. But yes, some guys do think of relationships, how much they invest in them, and evaluate if they need maintenance.

We do know it's about more than hanging out. Give us that. ;)

[gx76.livejournal.com]

>sigh< ^^ That was me. ^^ Sorry.

[completeinhim.livejournal.com]

No problem. And that's an amazing icon. :)

[abideinchrist.livejournal.com]

I think he needs some more creative ones though, he's used that one forever now, and hasn't gotten his point across. :-P lol

[princess-mia.livejournal.com]

Sounds like something I have noticed. Some guys are different from the norm though.;)

[tomnoir.livejournal.com]

Hi - I got here somewhat randomly and saw this post.

I would disagree, at least for my own personal male self. Although I probably am more prone to relational over-analysis than most guys.